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Having a dinner party? Well let me tell you, if you really want to heat things up and add some tension to the atmosphere than you should talk circumcision.


It astounds me how passionate people are about this private topic and how "everyone" seems to know the "right and best" way. North Americans are fairly synonymous with this age old practice which dates back to the Bible when Abraham made a covenant with God to cut off his son Issac's foreskin.

Here in Peterborough the rate of circumcised penises versus uncircumcised is 50/50, and if you choose the "off with his head" method be prepared to shell out $350. Yes the procedure is considered purely cosmetic by Health Canada and is no longer covered by OHIP. I am sure if you are in my age bracket and you talk about this with your mom she'll probably tell you that a nurse came in shortly after her son was born, took him away and brought him back with a little less "packaging" and a lot more bandaging, no questions asked.

But like most parenting techniques, times are a changing. Yes the younger generation questions authority more and for the most part is making more informed decisions. When I was pregnant with my first son I would lie awake at night stressed about whether to keep or snip my baby's foreskin. In the end we made a decision to put him under the knife, I went into the room helped a nurse hold my newborn down while he was strapped onto a cold stainless steel table, I then proceeded to attempt to soothe my infant while he was cut and sliced to bits, gee it was fun! Oh and let's not forget the part where I handed the doctor his cash for what seemed like torturing my baby.

Fast forward two years and ten months later and voila I gave birth to yet another boy, oh could I do it again? After some serious debate I realized no I could not. Yes I have read all there is to read about infections and HIV, and heard all the horror stories about the man who had to loose his foreskin in a gruesome procedure in his teenage or even later years, but honestly I still don't buy it, if you get an ear infection do you cut off your ear?

Oh and this is my favourite, the shear shocked response I get when I tell people I have one son who is circumcised and one who isn't, "my gosh, what will you say when your boys see they're different"...well I'm pretty sure they already are. They're in two different bodies and possess two different personalities, and let's be honest, will my daughter's breasts ever look like mine?

I do not regret circumcising Giorgio, nor do I judge anyone who does or doesn't, it is a personal decision and whichever you and your partner choose, good for you.

MF
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Comments  9

  • Caroline 18 Oct

    Thank you for telling your story. It's so true- we should NOT feel bad about things we did in the past. We are always learning, so we are always making the best choices we can.
  • Taylor Taylor 18 Oct

    Top Ten (10) Ways Circumcised Male Sex ALSO Hurts WOMEN:
    http://www.SexAsNatureIntendedIt.com/

    You did your first son a severe injustice in making his penis less functional and less sensitive for no reason other than cultural brainwashing. I could better understand if this were the 1980's, but we're in the age of the Internet where you have the ability and OBLIGATION to best research such a vital and permanent thing as penis ampuation.

    It deeply saddens me parents spend more time researching the best crib to buy online.

    It seems you don't realize the human rights violation and injustice between Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) and Male Genital Mutilation (MGM). FGM was made illegal in Canada in the early-1970's, yet boys continue to get tortured because of cultural brainwashing.

    Like how it's illegal to tattoo your baby or small child, or do footbinding or brass ring neck elongating, it's quite obvious we need to take the power away from you, because you and some others still don't fully get it. "His body, his choice."

    http://www.sexuallymutilatedchild.org/
  • WiseWoman 18 Oct

    Thank you for sharing honestly your path to realizing that unnecessary genital surgery is a cruel act.

    When we know better, we do better. And, when women prevent other mothers from making the same mistake, they make a difference.
  • Joel 18 Oct

    Ms Ferreri,

    I am actually very proud of you. It likely was not easy to choose something different for your second child. But you allowed yourself to grow from the previous experience.. what more can anyone ask of you than that?

    I agree with the above statement, "When we know better, we do better." In this culture its so easy to go with the flow, and to be pressured into circumcising our babies, but to have the guts to say now.. and to stand up to the barrage of critics who second-guess you... I am proud of you.

    Your story has special meaning for me, because my mother spared me from the procedure, despite the fact that my older brother underwent it. I will always be grateful, especially because back in the mid 80s there was a lot more pressure to have it done than there is today.

    As long as you teach both children what you know now, and don't bury the subject deep underground, I am sure it will all work out just fine. :)

    I really only disagree with you on one point, and that is that I don't feel that my body part ever DID belong to my parents, despite what the cultural pressure was. I don't believe it really WAS a choice they should be making.

    I am not glad about what my mother chose for me, I am glad that she understood that it was my choice. And in that sense, I personally am not okay with parents still choosing this for their children. We know it isn't necessary, and its honestly one of the best parts of a person's body.

    So, I hope maybe you'll reconsider your view on that aspect, but besides that.. thank you SO, SO much for your post. :)
  • Michelle Ferreri 18 Oct

    WOW...like I said, everyone has an opinion when it comes to circumcision.
  • Mrs. Clomping 18 Oct

    You took his choice away from him.

    http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-mind-of-man-i-want-all-of-my-penis-back/?eref=RSS

    It can't be reversed. So you saying you don't regret it means you don't fully understand the severity of what you've done.

    I'm over the moon the happy your 2nd son was spared. Please consider human rights and gender equality when it comes to permanently altering someone else's body for whatever the reason... even if it is your son.

    I'd like to see the MGM Bill (www.mgmbill.org) passed in the US and a similar Bill made here in Canada. It's truly deplorable girls have human rights protection and boys don't.
  • Dave 18 Oct

    Dave said...

    Hi Michelle,

    I am from Toronto, close to you, and I was circumcised as a neonate so I thought I would respond.

    My mother lost her relationship with me because of circumcision. She is a sexual bigot and cut me because she believes "boys are dirty down there". My sister got mad at me for making a "big deal" out of circumcision and in my sisters words, "going for my mothers jugular". All I did was ask my mother , "why was I circumcised?". I have a right to know why. Now my family is completely fractured and has been for yeays, all because of circumcision. Not something to be taken lightly.
  • Anonymous 18 Oct

    What? Baby brain lives on. You babble too much - try to learn some professionalism.
  • Anonymous 18 Oct

    I know a lot of men, who wished that the procedure was done when they were babies. Everyone has their own opinion....probably is no right or wrong though.

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